If You Can’t Do These 10 Things In Front Of Your Partner, Then They’re Probably Not Your Soulmate

If you’re in a healthy relationship, it’s easy to guess whether you’re with your soulmate or not, and how different the relation is when you’re with your own soulmate comparing to the relationships that you had before. This counts in total freedom to be who you truly are, letting your own guard down, building up respect and loyalty etc.

“This is the basis of any functional, healthy relationship. Without the foundation of being able to share your thoughts and feelings, they aren’t getting to know who you really are as a person and you’re not giving them the chance to love you fully, as a whole human being.”  therapist Laura Jordan, MA, LPC, LMFT.

When you are feeling comfortable with your partner means that you’re gaining trust and trust is one of the basic elements for a real relationship to work out, and lead into more serious way. The depth of the relationship is the bond that you have both created, and how deep will that bond go depends on your levels of loyalty, love and trust for one another. That doesn’t mean that you have to share literally everything together, there are still things that we should keep to ourselves too.

“There may be topics that are not so healthy for a relationship. As a couple, it’s a great practice to mutually decide what you’re better off not talking about. But otherwise, the conversations should flow — both of you willing to reveal what you’re thinking and feeling, what’s happened in the past, and what you’re dreaming about for your future.” – Jane Reardon, licensed therapist and founder of RxBreakup

Read below these 10 things the experts say that you should be able to talk about or do with your partner, if they’re the true soulmate.

1. Talk about bodily functions

You should be able to be “gross” with your partner, by gross means being totally open about the bodily functions and talk about them. This leads to understanding physical issues that one of the partner might have, and when you or your partner is repressing the “nasty talk” you could end up in serious situation with your health. And feel misunderstood in the relationship.

2. Get real about sex

No one is perfect, we know it. Even if the sex with your love one is pretty good, there might be some things that they bother you. When you’re in a good relationship, talking about sex issues and things that bother you shouldn’t be a thing that you are afraid to say out loud. Speaking about problem, and especially about your intimate life can only lead to a bigger progress and understanding.

3. Discuss your fears

Discussing with your partner about fears is a big deal. Expressing something very hidden to your loved ones and feel totally free about it, knowing the trust of your partner is something that doesn’t happen very often. Fear and anxieties are very intimate to all of us, and if the partner supports you, comforts you and helps you to overcome them, it’s a sign of your soulmate.

“Your partner should be able to listen to you and be responsive to what you need in order to deal with your fear.” – psychic and spiritual counselor Davida Rappaport.

4. Talk about your dreams for the future

In a soulmate relationship, you should be able to talk freely about your future together. A serious relationship leads to these kinds of conversations, and if we truly love the partner and we feel that the partner truly loves us, there shouldn’t be boundaries to express yourselves about this question and to know your opinions about it.

5. Let your guard down

This includes joking around, be silly, talk what you mean and be open with what you are and who you are to your partner. A true soulmate should love you and understand you just the way you are. Lowering down your guard in front of your partner can show indeed whether the person you’re with is a true love or not. Observe the behavior and seek for the answer!

6. Have a healthy argument

The healthiest relationships are having arguments. Although the couples we observe seem like they have nothing to argue about, and look ideal and perfect, they are not. We all should accept some argument as long as it’s observed as a conversation that goes more in depth. If you feel like you can’t be honest with the person you’re in a relationship with, that is not your soulmate.

7. Talk about what’s making you unhappy

There are certainly things that bother us and making us feel unhappy. If that includes the person you’re in a relationship with, this calls for a free, honest conversation.

“You should be able to have an open, yet respectful, conversation with your partner when you feel the relationship isn’t going well or if there is something [they have] done that has upset you. Without the diplomatic openness and honesty of revealing your feelings on the relationship (and where it could improve), there will be issues that go unresolved and linger causing the relationship to inevitably sour, or at least remain stagnant and not see any growth.” –says Jordan.

8. Share your opinions

This feels easy when you are with the right person. Have a wide range of things that you can freely talk about and state your opinions and facts is very meaningful, because once you’ve connected on a level when you can accept and vibe together, you can feel free to talk about what’s bothering you too. This is the first thing to notice in a beginning relationship, if this isn’t going so well, be sure that they are not the right for you.

“Whether it’s about religion, politics, or any other topic, it’s important that you feel like you have a voice even if your partner disagrees about your position.” therapist Kimberly Hershenson, LMSW.

9. Be wrong

When you’re with the right person, it’s OK to be wrong. This goes for both sides, when we admit that we did a mistake and we were wrong about something, the partner notices this and they will also do the same when it comes to them. This is a healthy way to lead a relationship. Actually, this is one of the best ways to let go of our ego for the person we love and most, for ourselves.

“A soulmate is the person who can see us be wrong, be with us when we are wrong, and still give us a safe space where we can ride the strong emotions out,” clinical psychologist Dr. Josh Klapow, host of The Web Radio Show.

10. Have a serious conversation

You should have from time to time some serious conversations in which both of you are equally included. Living together, money, sex, all of these things that concern your future and relationship should be spoken out loud without feeling afraid of the response of the partner.

“Conversations of all types are the foundation of a real relationship. If your partner is avoiding a serious conversation … they may not be your soulmate.” –  celebrity dating and empowerment coach Laurel House.