Kissing Your Children On the Lips is ‘Too Intimate’ And Can Confuse Them, Warns Psychologist
When it comes to parenting, there are a lot of things that need to be discussed, like, “ Is it okay to spank your kid when does something bad and inappropriate?” or “ Should I breastfeed my child in public?” but there’s also a certain one that caught the eye of a certain psychologist, and that is “ Is it okay to kiss my child on the lips?”.
Showing affection and love to your child must be number 1 on the list of good parenting, but it’s really debatable to kiss your kid on the lips. According to a psychologist, that can make the kids confused, and subconciuosly the kid will get a different message. American doctor named Charlotte Reznick, a child and educational psychologist at UCLA says that the mouth is erogenous zone, and although the kid is not aware of it, the subconscious mind takes it that way, and kissing the on the lips should be avoided.
She warned the parents because she claims that despite it being viewed as a sign of affection, the “kiss on the lips can be stimulating” and potentionally confusing the little children. She’s also the author of The Power of Your Child’s Imagination: How To Transform Stress and Anxiety Into Joy and Success and told The Sun that children view on kissing as a romantic encounter between the parents and actually wonder why are they involed in the same romantic activity with them.
“If you start kissing your kids on the lips, when do you stop? It gets very confusing. As a child gets to 4 or 5 or 6 and their sexual awareness comes about (and some kids have an awareness earlier—as when we notice they start masturbating at 2 or 3 sometimes—they just discover their private parts and it feels good), the kiss on the lips can be stimulating to them. Even if that never occurs to a child, it’s just too confusing! If mommy kisses daddy on the mouth and vice versa, what does that mean, when I, a little girl or boy, kiss my parents on the mouth? If I had to answer when to stop kissing your kids on the lips, it would be now.”