5 Signs That Indicate You’re Too Generous
Kindness is definitely an underrated virtue and the world surely does not have enough of it. We are all running a race which barely gives us any time to be kind to other people and hence the general standards of humanity are pretty low in these modern times.
That being said, there are a lot of people in this world who are too kind and too giving for their own good. Some of us give so much that it ruins our own peace of mind and we forget to care about what we really want or even need. If you feel like you are this person or know someone like this, read on to confirm.
Mental issues
When someone is being too nice and doing too much for people while forgetting to be there for their own self, the person in question is bound to fall prey to mental illnesses like anxiety or depression because every bone in their body reaches out to everyone but themselves. There is definitely a lot of joy in helping others but that is not how life can go on for anyone. They have to care for their own soul and heart too.
Too much drama
People find it easy to dump their issues and problems on people who are magnanimous but this can have a very bad effect on their lives because we all know that too much drama can overwhelm anyone. When this happens, one cannot locate their peace of mind because they have to deal with everyone’s issues. Life in general has its own difficulties so getting into others is obviously a huge pain and the bigger issue is that once a person like this has invested themselves in a situation like this, they find it impossible to get out.
Agony aunt
You have to listen to everyone and be there for them so much that you dread even checking their phone. Everyone always thinks that you will have a solution for everyone and since you make yourself available ungrudgingly, it is easy for other people to forget that you you’re your problems too. If you relate to this, please try finding some time for yourself.
No alone time
As mentioned above, you are always so busy solving other’s problems that you do not have any time to just unwind and cut back. You are always making space for other people and dedicating your precious time just making sure other people do not feel alone. If you feel overwhelmed, you just tell yourself that you are being selfish and keep going and pushing yourself beyond your limits.
You cannot say “no”
It almost feels like it is not in you to be able to refuse people even when you are being thoroughly disadvantaged. You feel like it would make you a terrible person to say no to even the most outlandish requests people make. You will pull a complete overhaul in your routine if you have to but you will not say no.
If you relate to the points above, remind yourself that you are your first priority and seek professional help if necessary.