7 Ways to Handle And Win With a Toxic Person

It is inevitable that during the course of your life, you will be around at least a few, if not many, toxic people. Being around toxic people can turn even the best of us. Especially if we don’t realize it and let them influence us with their poisonous ways. And the worst thing is, you can’t even blame them for who they are.

There are a million things at work in a person’s life and you never know what has turned them toxic. And because you don’t know the source of their pain and hatred, you can’t even do anything to help them. They are the only ones who can save themselves in such a situation. This is one battle that they have to fight alone and the best you can do is not let them affect you. So here are 7 things you can do to deal with a toxic person in your life:

1. Have clear boundaries and reinforce them whenever necessary

Toxic people are a little like parasites. They come uninvited and then proceed to suck the life out of you. If you realize that someone is of a toxic nature, set clear boundaries with them right from the get go. And every time they cross that line, make sure you let them know about it.

2. Make them aware of it when they are at fault

It is natural that you feel sorry for someone when you know what drives them to be so toxic. But understanding the roots of their complexes doesn’t mean you will let them go Scot free when they’ve done some wrong. You will have to reprimand them. Letting things slide only emboldens them to repeat it in the future. Sometimes they don’t even realize that they are at fault and blame others. You need to show them what they are.

3. Do not confide in them

They want to have everyone’s attention, always. And so they will not hesitate in revealing things about you which you must have shared with them in confidence. They are not to be trusted with things that reveal your vulnerability.

4. Don’t encourage their drama

They always want people to feel sorry for them. They will exaggerate, lie, do anything to grab your attention. Every time they tell you how hard life is for them, either talk of something else, otherwise definitely do not show sympathy.

5. Stop trying to make things better for them

They always want attention and anything you do will never be enough for them. They will keep coming back for more and it will only drain you.

6. Don’t worry about others being caught in their lies

Sooner or later they will slip and others will see the truth. If you try to call them out in public, they will only turn the whole thing on you to make you the bad guy.

7. Don’t let them bait you

At the end, just ignore them and their drama and hopefully they will get the message that you don’t want them to leech away your energy. When they see they can’t excite a reaction out of you, they will have no alternative but to leave you alone.