Stop Expecting These 10 Things From Others
How many times did happen to you to expect too much from someone and to be angry and disappointed in the end? When we are expecting something from our friends or family we are creating a perfect picture of that person in our minds, but is that a realistic picture? Unfortunately most of the times the answer is No. Many studies have found that this can be a main cause for emotional and mental suffering. The fact that we are not given what we were expecting from a certain person can lead to depression and anxiety.
These are the top 10 things you should stop expecting from others if you don’t want to damage your relationships:
1. Expecting people to always do the right thing
We are all different. We all have different perceptions, personalities and beliefs. The environment, the customs, the traditions we’ve been raising in made as the people we are now. So when we are all raised differently, how should we expect people to have the same opinion as we do. This is the reason why you shouldn’t expect other people to feel the same you feel about everything. If you think that eating cockroaches is disgusting, you shouldn’t expect you friend from Asia to share the same opinion with you.
2. Expecting everyone to agree with you
It’s really great when people around us agree with our opinions and the things we do. But we can’t always expect that. It’s absolutely normal to disagree with someone, because we all have our own personality and our own opinion. So never expect others to think the same way you do.
3. Expecting people to be perfect
Stop creating perfect pictures of the people around you, because no one is perfect. We all make mistakes because it’s a normal thing. Sooner or later, disappointment is the only thing you will get if you are looking for perfection in people.
4. Expecting people to be mind-readers
If you want other people to know something about you, express yourself with words. People can’t read minds, so you can’t be upset if they don’t notice your feelings or the sadness on your face. Why don’t you just tell them how you feel about something?
5. Expecting people to pick you up after you fall
We all live in our own world, sometimes fulfilled with problems. Doesn’t have to mean the person doesn’t care about you if that person can’t help you when you need help. Maybe that person is living a lot worse period than you.
6. Expecting people to always understand you
Sometimes we can’t even understand ourselves, so how can we expect others to be able to understand us and our feelings. It is okay if your friends can’t understand you, that doesn’t make you worthless.
7. Expecting people to treat you the same way you treat them
It has happened to all of us, to treat someone with care and sensitivity and receive nothing from that in return. It would be perfect if we treated equally each other, but that’s not how the world works. Just try to understand those people, maybe they just don’t know how to express themselves.
8. Expecting people to change their behavior suddenly
Don’t expect from people to change their behavior. If they have behaved in the same way their whole life, the chances they will change because of you are minimalistic. You will just destroy your relationship if you tell people what to think and how to behave. Try to change your perspective not the person.
9. Expecting others to be the same person
People change as the time goes by. The everyday problems and situations we are going through are changing our perspectives. So don’t expect from people to be the same as they were many years ago.
10. Expecting others to have it all together
If you want to have a strong relationship with someone, don’t expect that person to have it all together all the time. We are all going through some difficulties in life, so just show understanding in those moments.