The Smarter And More Independent You Are, The Harder It Is To Find Love

Human beings need love. However much we cry about living a life of solitude, we need love. We cater to it, sometimes even desperate for it. But, what we do not realize it that as we grow older, we realize how screwed and messed up love is. Paradoxical, isn’t it? Love, as we know, is supposed to make our life easier, simpler, much more fruitful, and fun-filled. Instead, we are left in a ‘dark, desert highway’, contemplating our relationship, and wishing we had taken some time to think about it before getting in it.

But why? Shouldn’t love be easier, and much more sought after when we are in a stage in our life when we are smart enough to realize the pros and cons of love? Well, there lies the problem. Us realizing that love has both pros and cons, somewhere down the line, disenchants us from this whole fiasco, as we then call it.

We realize that love isn’t all sunshine and daisies, but involves real introspection to maintain it. And there lies the second problem. We don’t know whom to spend time more on: the relationship, or yourself. If you neglect one, both of them invariably get hampered. But, you can’t take care of both. That’s the dichotomy.

God help you if you are smarter than the average human, for you would almost never get love. You are purely based on logic, and reason, two things that have never defined love. It is an emotion, which to you, is a failure. You would rather calculate your compatibility with your partner, and then check how much ‘love’ you are in with. But, later, you do realize that this entire test has failed, for you can’t define love through mathematics.

We are not in Narnia, or Hogwarts, that we would witness flying brooms, or talking lions. So, to make your life magical, maintain the love you have. Work on it, despite its apparent cons, for that would make your life meaningful. Ironic, isn’t it? Something that is in itself devoid of an altruistic meaning, giving meaning to your own life? That’s love for you.

People break up every day. Every city, every relationship goes through suffering. Why? It is simply because the partners need independence. A place where they can only hear their own thoughts, without anyone interfering in between. While that may seem harsh, it is true for every human being. We may be caught in the mesh of a relationship, but that doesn’t stop our individuality. We still want to assert ourselves, as one human being. Independent of every bond society has placed on us.

But, the bottom line is, you need love. No two ways about it. You need love, and you need it forever. While some use it for their physical satisfaction, some are in it for the love. If you belong to the second category, go through with it. Struggle against all odds, for the silver lining is just round the corner.