3 Differences Between Needing and Loving Someone
You grow up listening to stories about how a brave, handsome prince would come riding a white horse one day and take you to a land of love. Very well! Then what? You grow up and realise that it’s all crap! In reality, you seldom experience this ‘magical’ and ‘true’ love. On the contrary, the men you love mostly turn out to be cowards. They stick around only through the good times and treat you badly when you feel low. They make you feel that maybe love is not for you. Well, that’s never the case though! Don’t let anybody tell you that you don’t deserve love or the goodness it brings to your life.
So, first thing first, you need to fully understand the difference between ‘NEEDING’ someone to be with you and ‘WANTING’ to be with someone.
1. Desperation creates ‘need’. Empowerment creates ‘want’.
Desperation makes you short-sighted and vulnerable. If you desperately need a man, you would make undue compromises and even settle for someone who is not worthy of your love. Empowerment, however, makes you aware of what you want and you then know who you want to be with. You then look for love that you know you deserve and you confidently pursue that love. Only by wanting to be with someone do you realise how valuable they are to you and you are then ready to fight for this love, come what may!
2. Know that ‘you are worthy’ of a man
It’s rather sad that you are with a man just because you need validation for your existence. A relationship is not going make up for the affairs of your life which you are so insecure about. If you want a man as compensation for your withering life, they would almost inevitably fail you. Know fully well that you are worthy of the man you want to be with. Only then can you positively affect your relationship and assert your position in it. It allows you to demand your partner’s love and to be treated the way you must be.
3. You choose to be with a man. It’s not a necessity.
Love is not something beyond your control as many might tell you. It’s something you choose. It’s you who decides how much you want to give to any person. The amount of effort you invest in a relationship is completely something that you control. True love makes you aware of how much you are ready to fight for somebody. It is only dependence, and not love, if you feel that your survival necessarily depends on your being with somebody.
Once you feel empowered from within and choose the company of another equally empowered person, you start realising the magic that love can bring to your life. So go on and choose the man you WANT to love in your life and stop feeling that you NEED a man to love you!