5 Phrases Sociopaths and Narcissists Use To Undermine Your Confidence

Being with a Narcissist or a Sociopath is an emotionally and mentally harrowing experience. They lure you into becoming completely dependent on them and then exploit your bond. Whereas a sociopath has the compulsive need to dictate every single aspect of your life, a Narcissist expects you to make him/her the center of your universe. Neither of the above are ideal situations. So how do you avoid being in such a relationship dynamic? You look for the signs of these personality type, and having recognized them avoid such people at all costs. Here are 5 things that these two personality type are prone to say to you:

1. They despise drama of all sorts.

They will vehemently assert that drama has no place in their life. But the more you know them, you’d realize that drama is never absent from the picture when it comes to them. They lie without abandon and anytime you catch them, they will play the victim card. There is no point in trying to call them out. They will always accuse you of causing drama and plead their hatred for drama in order to avoid having to talk about anything that matters to you.

2. You are ………

This blank can be filled with any technical or non-technical synonym for crazy. When they first meet you, they will tell you all these outlandish stories of their exes who all seem to be either bipolar, schizophrenic, way too jealous, or completely obsessed with them. Despite these obvious problems, they’d still talk to them, causing fissures in your own relationship. And soon they will start accusing you too of having some sort of disorder or the other. They will demean you. They will distort your own opinion about yourself. Such a situation can be very damaging and is of course abusive.

3. You are way too sensitive.

When they first met you, you were the most perfect human on Earth for them. They were always full of good things to say about you. They were attentive and loving and would pamper you to no end. Then, when they see that they have you under their control, they’d stop paying attention at all. They will take you for granted and if you speak up, they will say that you are too sensitive and making a big deal out of nothing. They will continuously play with your confidence and can bring in a lot of insecurities which have no right to exist.

4. You are mistaken, this is not what I meant.

Narcissists and Sociopaths are known to do something which is known as gaslighting. This means they’d deliberately do or say hurtful things, and if you call them out they’d flat out deny it. They’d either say that you have misinterpreted their actions or words or they will completely deny having said anything that’d be causing the rift at all. They will make you question your own sanity. It might seem impossible but they can seriously play with your confidence.

5. There’s no you without me.

Every sociopath or Narcissist hopes that you become so dependant on them that surviving without them is out of the question. They will say and do things beginning early in the relationship, that will make you think that you two are meant to be together. Then they will undermine your self worth to such an extent that you’d think that no one else will ever have you. They will manipulate you into believing that you can’t survive this world unless you have them by your side. Obviously all of this is bullshit. You have and you will survive without them. In fact, you will thrive without them holding you back all the time.