14 Signs He’s Using You And You Don’t Even Know It

All women want to find a man who is sincere in his affection for her. No one wants to be with a person who is only in the relationship so that they can get something out of it. A good partner is generous, mindful and sensitive and will do their best to keep their significant other happy.

But not everyone is lucky enough to find someone who ticks off all these boxes. Love really can be blind at times and some women find themselves in abusive relationships even though they weren’t even looking for something like that in the first place. It’s not easy to find out if you’re being blind to your boyfriend’s faults. Here are some of the signs you should watch out for.

1. He never discusses the future with you

You can’t figure out whether he’s committed to you because he always avoids any discussion on that topic. If this is the case, he is likely trying to get something from you and isn’t really in the relationship because he cares for you.

2. People close to you warn you that he is insincere

Even if you aren’t focused, your friends are most likely watching out for you and they aren’t looking at him through the rose-tinted glasses that you have on. If people you trust are warning you that he is not what you think he is, pay attention to their words.

3. He is not generous in bed

Sex is an important part of every relationship and an insincere man won’t think about your satisfaction at all. He’s only in bed with you because he’s looking forward to his own pleasure.

4. You never got to know the people he is close to

When your boyfriend actually cares about you, he will introduce you to the people he loves and trusts because he values your presence in his life. If he doesn’t, you’ll probably never get to meet them.

5. He is dependent on you for financial stability

If you find yourself constantly buying him things that he wants or giving him small loans to help him out of his debts, you should stop and reconsider your relationship. Be extra careful because if you are running short on cash, he’ll be gone before you know it.

6. You are constantly helping him out in some way

It’s almost like you’re his mother and not his girlfriend because he’s always asking you for something or the other. He just wants to have a good time even if you aren’t happy.

7. Your feelings aren’t important to him

He does what he wants without thinking about the way his actions affect you. He only thinks about his own pleasure and he’ll do whatever it takes to get that rush.

8. He’s not affectionate with you

All the touches and caresses that come naturally in all relationships don’t happen in yours unless he’s trying to wheedle a favor out of you. And no matter how much you do for him, he is never thankful and doesn’t bother appreciating you.

9. He’s not consistent

Just when you think he’s warming up to you, he immediately becomes distant and frigid again. His mood changes depending on his desires and it doesn’t matter whether you like it or not.

10. You are not his confidante

You trust him with almost everything but he likes to keep his life a secret from you. It becomes easier for him to manipulate you because he can read all your thoughts but if you try to read him, you will only see a stranger.

11. He talks to you when he wants a favor

All your interactions depend on what he can get out of them. He’s not going to call you unless he wants something from you.

12. He doesn’t take you out

This could mean one of two things – He’s ashamed to be around you where other people can run into you or he doesn’t value you enough to take you on dates. It could be either on or it could be both but it all means that you need to get out of that relationship.

13. He is known for not treating his partners well

He is reputed for not treating his girlfriends well and you aren’t going to be any different. Don’t become another one of his victims.

14. He is not faithful

The biggest red flag of them all, if he’s not faithful, he clearly doesn’t care about you in the least. He’s not actually working on being with you.  So just leave him before he hurts you.