Argue Less With Your Partner By Asking These Few Questions

Every relationship has the same story: People fight and quarrel with each other. Some people agree that arguments make a relationship stronger while others say that at the point, when you argue, the relationship becomes just a drag. Quarrels usually happen because the people of our generation refuse to succumb to the norms that are laid down by the partner they are in love with, or by the society. It is a good sign that they don’t want to surrender, but too many arguments are not good in any relationship; sometimes the consequences can be catastrophic.

Researchers and psychologists have proved that there are a few questions, which when answered by the partners, can resolve a lot of issues between them. These questions are as follows:

• Are you the kind of person who likes to sleep early or are you a night owl?
• Does your partner follow the same sleeping habit as you do or does he/she have a completely different schedule?
• Do you feel like your worst fights are aggravated by a specific place or a specific time?
• Do you think that even your most productive fights are triggered by a specific time or place?
• How do you and your partner go about the argument? Do the two of you give each other some space before fighting or like to start the fight instantaneously?

All the mentioned above questions basically help us to understand our partner better. Little things can make a lot of difference and sometimes it helps us to avoid big fights. Remembering and recognizing the behavioral pattern of our partner can help us to stop triggering arguments. Sometimes you may not be the reason for the argument; it can be the situation as well. Discuss the matter with your partner and talk it out. Either one of you should make a commitment to stop the fight about a topic in and around a particular time period. Write down certain ground rules, which you and your partner will follow in the future. Even if your partner doesn’t agree to it, be the better human being and stop bringing up controversial topics at times.

In this monotonous life, we all are very busy earning our daily bread. We rush headlong into work in the morning, and when we return, we are exhausted and cannot wait to get into bed. For an adult human being, it is nearly impossible to clear time out to solve arguments with our partners. Even if we do find out the time, the argument will be a long stretch and be completely meaningless; both of us would be too tired to clear out each other’s doubts. The weekends might seem an ideal time to resolve everything. Clear out your time and talk. Things will certainly get better.