What Happens When You Meet A Good Guy After A Toxic One?
A toxic relationship stunts your growth and drains all your energy. It is the epitome of passive aggression. You cease to be yourself and lose hope. Then comes a good boy who raises a storm in your soul and erupts a volcano of feelings. You feel different and unsure of the next step; this is because you have met someone who is made for you after a long time. You lose balance easily and all the guards you had built crumble in a moment – you simply step in chaos not knowing what to do.
1. You fear being abandoned by the person you love.
You have been so used to living with a broken heart, that now you are scared to enjoy life. You question when the good guy mask will crack or he will disappear like everyone else. However, a good person who loves you truly will always be there for you.
2. You always think the guy has some ulterior motive to be with you.
You cannot simply believe he is genuine and find yourself doubting every other girl he talks to. If he compliments you on your outfit, you will end up thinking that you look terrible and he just needs to get some work done. You will analyze each and every word he says, scanning for that one sign of infidelity – but a good guy does not manipulate emotions. He is there because he cares an awful lot.
3. Actions speak louder than words.
His gestures will make you realize he is not one of those shady people who broke your heart. You have been put on a pedestal one day and been forgotten on the next, admired when alone and treated as if invisible in public. A good guy knows that the key to long lasting relationships is understanding and accepting. He will love you for who you are without conditions. He will hold your hand through thick and thin. Consistency is a pivotal part of a happy relationship.
4. This is very important- you realize the different shades of “love”.
You learn to differentiate true love from the fake one. The shower of compliments faded with time, the over enthusiasm giving way to heaps of excuses, the perfect comforting conversations to hollow words – now you know why it happened. As Ursula K. Le Guin says, “love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new.” a good guy will go out of his way to make you feel wanted and share his universe with you.
5. When the perfect guy steps in, you will know why it didn’t work out with others.
Marilyn Monroe said, “I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”