How to Love a Woman Who Has Walked Through Fire

Throughout life, we’ll face many obstacles and some might even seem impossible to surmount. There’ll be a series of highs and lows. Things won’t work out smoothly every time. Just as you’ll have wonderful times you will also have some difficult moments just to ensure that everything is balanced out.

When you climb out of a rough patch, you’ll appreciate all the beauty around you even more. And it is true that life isn’t fair. There are people who will have to deal with much more than their fair share of pain and sometimes, it can get so bad as to leave a person scarred for the rest of their life.

For those with heightened sensitivity, these experiences can be devastating. Not everyone has the necessary strength and courage to make their way through these hurdles unscathed. But we tend to keep pushing forward and in the end we might come out just more than a little worse for the wear. We’ll be bruised and bloody and getting up again might be the hardest thing we’ll ever have to do.

So if you find yourself falling for a woman who has been through such times, you should know right from the beginning that loving her isn’t going to be easy. Her instincts will scream at her to fight against you.

The first thing she’ll do is build up her walls as high as she can so that she can keep you out of her mind and heart. Getting past her defenses is going to take a lot of love and patience on your part. She has been deeply hurt, more than she could ever put into words but it might be that you are what she needs to be happy.

Don’t forget that she’s had to jump through burning hoops over and over again just to survive. She has had to deal with more hardships and sorrows than the average person will see in their lifetime. She’s going to try and challenge you the way she has been challenged. The last thing she wants is more pain so she’ll test you to see if you really love her.

Her emotions might be all over the place and she’ll ensure that loving her is a difficult task. Even though you’re not the reason for her pain, she might try to take her frustration and anger at the world out on you. Being vulnerable before you is difficult for her because she’s scared you might hurt her. You’ll have to work hard to get her to open up to you.

Love can’t make everything better for everyone, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try. Prove to her that she can trust you and that you love her so much that you would never willingly put her in pain. Show her that she shouldn’t be scared to love and that you’ll be there for her every step of the way.

Of course, things won’t work out magically. There’ll be times when she’ll distance herself but you need to power through. Give her space and give her your understanding. Show her that you will persevere against all odds. All this will take time so practice patience and persistence. You have to prove that you are in this for the long haul before she can fully trust you.

There may come a time when she feels like she doesn’t deserve you. Prove her wrong. Show her that all her difficulties have only made her stronger and more beautiful, that she is more than just the sum of her scars. Show her that she deserves all the love in the world. And show her that you are ready and willing to love her that much and more.