She Has a Genuine Heart And a Kind Soul, But That Doesn’t Mean She Isn’t Going To Leave You

Relationships are difficult, everyone knows that; but what makes them even trickier is society’s flawed perception of the sexes. The training and the expectations from both sexes is not only different but more often than not double edged hypocritical and sad.

Men are taught to be toxic and masculine: they must be strong and “man up” and never cry, stifling their emotions forever inside them. Women on the other hand are trained to be docile and tame and take the brunt of their men’s frustrations; which is always unfair.

As a matter of fact, patriarchy has always tried to fuck up women’s chances at success, in careers and in love and relationships. The latter, which ideally should be all about equality are the most fucked up. They reinforce societal norms and notions over and over again.

Let’s consider an ideally emancipated free-minded woman. She is well-read, educated and does not need societal validation to know she is beautiful. She knows she is beautiful because she is beautiful.

She has a heart of gold; kindness, a charitable disposition and the cool headed temperament that helps her make decisions with ease. Suppose she gets into a relationship with a man who is ideally like her: he does not adhere to societal notions of masculinity. He is creative, imaginative and kind and does not need society to tell him he is attractive; he knows it because he is.

This would be the ideal situation.

But mostly you know what ends up happening in this case?

Especially to the woman?

She ends up being with someone toxic. She keeps of taking beatings, physical and mental and emotional and in worst cases sexual, all in the name of love. For a person who doesn’t appreciate her and what she is. She survives in the name of love, ironically which is advertised as something that makes everything and everyone better.

Well arguably it doesn’t. For some people and mostly men, thanks to their societal training, relationships are just meant to be inlets of pleasure, sexual and emotional, and the outlet of frustration.

They end up taking the world’s grudges out on their girlfriend/wife/partner.

So what should the liberal minded, emancipated woman do?

Should be bear the brunt of the frustration being vented out on her in any way she can, just because she is in love with the man?

Should she bite the bullet and rage on?

Should she bicker, unlike her character, just because the situation demands her to?

The answer is a resounding no. She should and in the ideal scenario, would leave.

With grace, dignity and a little pride, she will lift her head up into the skies and see the light of freedom for what it is.

And you know what?

The outcome for these women is really better than the “they lived happily ever after” endings. They are happy because they deserve their freedom and true love and appreciation. Not oppression in the name of a relationship.

And mind you, if you are the toxic man in her life, your woman will leave.

Just a matter of time.